Jenny was having a PDM with one of
her staff, and that staff-member
bought to the table conversation
about “work-life balance”.

Jenni confirmed with me that she’d
shared with all of her team in their
Personal Development Meetings
(PDMs) that we all had only one life,
and it’s how we choose to use it…
that makes a difference.

Yes, I said, … we all have a choice!

So, after a bit more conversation in
the PDM, Jenny said that she’d
asked her team member …
what was eating into her heart?

She first hesitated, and then she
explained to Jenny that her husband
seemed to be having difficulty at his
work, and she’d noticed a change in
him over the past few weeks…
months, actually!

And, she went on with Jenny… his
change has had a profound effect on
every member of our family in som
way, shape, or form!

He looks OK, but there is obviously
something in his way.

I think he needs help --- you know,
mental help, as life just seems to be
too hard for him.

He gets angry at the drop of a hat.

He sleeps a lot!

And, he never looks forward to going
to work, or for that matter, anything!!!

So, she said, I asked the question ---
tell me more… what’s going on?

Remember the work-life balance!

As we were drinking our coffee, Jenny
said to me that she found it intriguing
somebody would trust her with this
sort of conversation.

She said …
Don, I don’t have all --- or any --- of the
answers!

She suggested that it might be
because of the integrity,
confidentiality, and the
contents of the PDMs.

Jenny asked me… so, Don, what’s your
take on that?

Well Jenny, it’s quite simple…

“The answer to any question, is in the
question”

To get the right answer, is to ask the
right question.

And Jenny said to me, as she was
pondering my last statement,
that’s exactly what she was doing in
the PDM…
she said she was asking questions
and listening.

So, Jenny, I asked, what was the
outcome about the lady’s husband…?

Jenny said… she wanted to ‘chew on
the conversation (PDM) and would
chat further in our weekly PDM next week.

And, Don… I thought that now would
be a good time to chat through this
with you for some guidance…

I said to Jenny… as you know, we lost
our daughter Krysten to suicide in
March 2020 and there is certainly a
stigma about mental health that most
people unbeknown to themselves,
have an issue with…!?

People have an issue – a stigma –
with mental well-being!!!

If your team-member’s husband
doesn’t have any broken bones,
bruises, smashed face or burned skin,
then, ‘the-world’ would deem him to
be in good working order.

WRONG!!!

there’s most likely big issues going on
inside his mind

As you know Jenny, the unconscious
mind doesn’t know the difference
between imaginary and reality…

You might remember conversations
we’ve had previously…
“what-ever the mind can conceive
and believe, so it shall be.”

And FYI…
over the past months, we’ve started a
private foundation to support our
learnings from Krysten’s Passing,
directly and indirectly and on behalf
of Krysten… and that’s outlined at
https://krystenspeaceproject.org/ …
Go check it out, …
… share it with your team-member –
and have her share it with her Hubby --
a conversation starter.

There are people who care, Jenny ---
and you are certainly one of those people.

Reach-out!

You’ll be surprised what you will discover.

Smashing mental health stigma…
One day at a time

I found another interesting resource
to start a conversation …

watch this amazing interview with
Australia’s
Megan Castren
casually chatting on Zoom with
Oprah
and
Dr Bruce Perry

They talk about their book…
“What Happened to You?”